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Finding one is hard work, but it is worth all the trouble
Parveen Chopra
First the bad news. Innumerable young people were inspired by One, a book by Richard Bach celebrating his soul mate relationship with actor Leslie Parrish. Well, after over two decades of togetherness, the two are no longer one,
Now the good news. Even in these days of convenient and transitory relationships, many people still believe in soul mates. The ideal survives because in romantic love what we truly seek and don't find is unlimited and unconditional. Most relationships descend into co-dependence, concerned more about what one is getting out of it than with contributing to the other's happiness.
However, a relationship can be turned into a soul mate one by growing and stretching our hearts and spirits toward something higher.Explaining the concept. Simrita Chaudhry, who is part of the family that runs Vimhans in Delhi, says soul mates are two people vibrating together at the soul level.
Harmony exists between them because they would have shared it over many past lives.Jharna Alreja, a Mumbai-based tarot card reader, adds, "Not many are aware of the concept of soul mates, but it is a reality.In fact, a tarot reading can find out if there is a karmic relation between two people.
I have "client who, at an aarti in Tirupati at 4 am, met "girl with whom he had shared his past life." Offering practical advice on finding a soul mate, Anuradha Prabhu Desai, counselling psychologist with Disha, says that while choosing a partner, you should be more discerning, less hasty, and ensure that you two gel intellectually too.
Changing tack, she says, "A soul mate may not be your spouse, it may even be of the same sex." Umaesh Pherwani, a model who works for KLM, says a soul mate is found by trial and error, not if you shut yourself up after bad experiences.
Advice on finding a soul mate abounds in the literature on the subject. Look for someone:
Who accepts you as you are.Who is generous with his time, energy and money.Who is a learner, and wants to continue to learn about you, himself and life.
You also need to work on yourself:Be happy with yourself. Don't think you are needy.Work on improving your self-esteem.Do things you love to do. It is easier to attract a soul mate if 'You are a fulfIlled person.
